Learn how to move from disconnection to closeness with this simple 6-step tool.

Transform Conflict into Closeness

You’ll Get:

a beautifully designed e-guide, a visual chart to walk you through each SOFTEN step, and a short video where I personally teach you how to use it in real-time moments of conflict.

When conflict keeps looping, it’s not about communication—it’s about protection.

“SOFTEN helped us stop reacting—and finally hear each other.”
— Client
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What You’ll Learn

  • How to interrupt conflict loops before they spiral

  • Practical emotional regulation tools based on EFT + IFS

  • The key to reconnecting without shutting down or blowing up

Courtney Orlowski

Licensed Therapist, EFT Couples Therapist & IFS Practitioner

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Recommended!

Brittany Hautz, Queer Trauma Specialist

“A Must-Watch for Connection and Growth.
This 5-minute video is impactful for anyone looking to stop fighting and start loving in their relationships. Using the acronym "SOFTEN," Courtney provides an embodied guide to fostering deeper relational connections. The visual diagram and her calming, well-paced voice make it easy to accept her invitations for reflection and apply them in real time. Her ability to break down complex dynamics into actionable steps is unmatched.”